Threesome jealousy is a tricky foe. Some of us wrestle with it more than others, but it can strike when you least expect it. And it can take over out of the blue even when a person is not particularly prone to it.
A lot of guys will complain that women don’t enjoy threesomes because their gender is more prone to jealousy in threesomes. And yet women the world over sometimes hide from their lovers for fear of their safety, even when they didn’t do whatever deed they are accused of.
Jealousy is a normal, natural emotion that everyone experiences in some context some of the time. It can make you appreciate what you have, or help you strive to do better.
It can also grow into a dangerous and often deadly beast—ruin your life, your relationships, and poison the lives of those around you.
Here are essential keys to keeping your threesome jealousy in check.
3 Tips to Handle Threesome Jealousy
1. Be Prepared
Even if you’ve been living the hotwife lifestyle for years and gotten off on the excitement of that sort of jealousy, always be prepared for the bigger beast to rear its ugly head.
It’s not just threesome first timers who experience jealousy. Even old fashioned swingers and polyamorous people who always share their lovers know jealousy can come a knockin’.
I’m polyamorous and not really the jealous sort, but I’ve experienced it on occasion.
You never know when it will appear. I had quite a few MFM threesomes with one lover. He begged me to bring home a man on my birthday so they could both fuck me. Lo and behold, he was surprised by his terrible jealousy that night.
Read: 5 Tips for Straight Men in MMF Threesomes
Just knowing jealousy MIGHT make an appearance can help you keep it in check when it comes.
2. Accept Yourself, and Others
Making a conscious effort to accept the fact that there are hotter, funnier, richer, sexier, and more well-endowed guys out there, just as there are guys who are less blessed than you are in one department or another, can make a difference when irrational emotions rise up.
Understanding that some differences are a matter of just different, not better or worse, can also help build your sexual confidence. For example, a smooth guy might feel like men with more body hair are more masculine or virile, but a hirsute guy might wish he had less. We all have our body issues. A lot of them are in our head.
Read: How to Build Your Sexual Confidence
It can be easier for some of us to accept a third party’s imperfections, and hard to accept their assets, but the reality is that we are all different, and also that tastes vary dramatically.
3. Call It What It Is
Jealousy in threesomes thrives in denial and blame. If you hear yourself blaming your lovers for how you are feeling, or telling them over and over that your sulky mood has nothing to do with jealousy, seize that red flag and call it what it is!
Threesome jealousy builds and festers while we ignore it and pretend it is something else. As soon as you recognize that you are “just jealous” your fear of his much larger cock or your worry that she’ll leave you for the hourglass bisexual woman that made her scream will start to lose its power over you. Naming it and shaming it is often enough to help jealousy retreat.
Read: 6 Tips to Handle Jealousy in Your Open Relationship
How do you deal with jealousy in your threesomes? Please share in the comments!
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