Back in my twenties, long before anyone used online dating, threesomes just kinda happened. I’d be out with a girlfriend and meet some cute guy who we’d ask home from the bar, or I’d find myself at a house party hooking up in a bedroom with a couple of hot guys.
Things have changed. Being older with friends who have moved away or decided to get married and settle down means I’m not free wheeling and fancy free anymore. Finding a threesome takes effort.
If you’re one of those who did settle down and are thinking about opening up your monogamous marriage, you’re probably wondering how to find that all-important third. We know she’s not just waiting on the corner.
Tips to Find a Third
Join a Dating Site
It will feel strange if you’ve been in a long-term relationship for twenty plus years, but it will also feel exhilarating. You can create a couple’s profile with your partner and search for someone together. It will be fun, and you’ve got two heads, which is always better than one.
For best results, check out niche sites like CouplesDating.com that cater to couples and singles looking for group sex encounters.
Take Your Time
There’s no rush when it comes to online dating because he or she is still going to have their profile up tomorrow or next week. Carefully read a candidate’s full profile, checking for red flags and compatibility before you send a first message.
Discuss boundaries and expectations before meeting to avoid wasting anyone’s time.
Meet in a Casual Setting before Hooking Up
Some adventurous folks will just meet for the first time to engage in sexual activity, but there can be lots of problems with that. For instance, the chemistry you’ve felt for that fiery redhead you’ve been chatting with online may fall flat in person, or maybe your potential third reveals kinks and fetishes that you weren’t expecting or interested in.
A pre-threesome meeting in neutral territory is also recommended to avoid any potentially unsafe situations, especially if you are planning to host a threesome.
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