Health and safety aren’t always the first things on your mind when you’re fantasizing about a threesome, and that’s okay, as long as you don’t ignore them completely. Here’s a few tips to keep the good times rolling.
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Be open and honest with your doctor.
Your doctor may or may not approve of your lifestyle, but you’re not there to seek his or her approval. You need her professional advice, diagnoses and care.
It might be hard to say “Yo, doc, I have a wife and a boyfriend and we love extracurricular hookups.” I empathize. But if you don’t trust your doctor to care for your whole health, what’s the point? Find another doctor.
Here’s a case in point—a girlfriend of mine kept getting bladder and yeast infections. She was celibate at the time, following a divorce, so no one suspected the infections were sexually triggered.
But as it turned out, Cindy was very sensitive and it was her new dildo that was irritating her. It doesn’t seem pertinent to tell your doctor about your sex toys, but she was allergic to the plastics!
The advice to get a glass toy spared her for the future, and now she has a toy box full and a regular threesome hookup.
Take extra care with your sex toys.
Speaking of toys, make sure any toys you’ll be sharing at your next MMF or FFM are properly cleaned and cared for. You want to know where they’ve been and where they’re going, and you want to clean them before and after sessions, but also between partners during a session.
Drink moderately during group sex encounters.
A little wine or whisky helps everyone relax and that can facilitate intimacy and pleasure, but getting bombed means you’ll feel sick, act annoying, and won’t remember much of your good time.
You want to be healthy, in control, and relaxed, so keep your imbibing civilized. Your liver will thank you, and there will be no hangover to hamper the afterglow tomorrow.
Take care of finger and toenails.
Every guy who is sexually active should have a nail file or emery board on hand. You don’t need a manicurist. Just good soap and water, clippers and a nail file. Be diligent about jagged and torn nails. You don’t want to inadvertently irritate or cut anyone’s tender tissues—or your own, for that matter.
Talk about the uncomfortable stuff.
It’s not just your doctor you want to talk to, but your partners. If you’re riding two babes and notice a bunch of genital warts you’re going to want to ask some questions so you can take the next steps.
Don’t panic, assume, or accuse—STDs happen and they need to be cared for, that’s all.
Prevention is ideal, and that’s why you’re always practicing safe sex. But nothing is 100%. If you don’t flinch when asking her whether she prefers to have her ass pounded by another guy or her muff munched by your wife, you can ask her what those bumps are all about.
Take your own precautions for pregnancy prevention.
Here’s the deal: a big part of sexual health is prevention of pregnancy. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship hoping for kids one day or hooking up with strangers, remember to think about birth control.
Do you know how effective the Sponge is? Do you even know what the Sponge is? Do you know how to use condoms properly? Do you know whether the morning after pill always works? Do you know the side effects of oral contraception? These are your concerns too.
The last thing you want is an unexpected knock at the door this summer—or twenty years from now!
Find out who’s using what and when, and know the facts about those methods. Always use a condom even if your new girls are using the Sponge, foam and the Pill, because that’s in your control.
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