So you want to have a swingers party? There are a few things to consider before you begin. Let me break those down for you in short order.
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1. Look at your relationship situation. If you’re a single guy and want to have a swingers party, you’ll need to find some women. If you want to have an all guy party, it will be easy—just invite guys over, and let them get it on. Men are simple creatures that way. If you want women there, however, you need to offer enticements.
2. Find a female accomplice who can sell the idea to other women. Also, it needs to be a safe space for women to let loose. If the object is to do a gloryhole, gangbang, or some dogging, where a whole lot of men gang up on one horny lady then all well and good. If it’s couples swapping partners, though, then that is another thing entirely.
3. Ask men to bring a female friend. It’s important because otherwise there will be too many horny, entitled guys wandering around and disrupting shit. If you can find several open-minded couples who will come, share drinks, and let their guard down then this would be best.
4. Find polyamorous and kinky couples on dating sites like PolyamoryDate.com or BDSMdate.com. These are great places to start—in conversation, or sharing your fantasies with like-minded person.
5. Make your place a space where judgement doesn’t happen. What happens when people pass through the door stays inside. Find people you trust and discuss boundaries. Maybe you want to film your group sex, maybe not, but make sure everyone knows the rules and respects the space.
6. Make sure people know it’s okay to watch, or be watched. Not everyone is always ready to go the distance every time. Sometimes just being there is enough.
7. Provide lots of condoms and lube and whatever else people need. Put some seductive music on, or play a sexy movie. I recommend skipping the modern porn which is full of repulsive bodies and unnatural sex sounds (fake moaning and all that), and go back to 70’s porn. That stuff is so much classier.
8. Put the effort and planning time in. A swingers party won’t happen in a day, but if you put your energy into it, it will happen! Just direct yourself toward your goal.
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