How can you tell if a woman you’re dating would be open to having a threesome with you?
It is notoriously easy to misread someone’s intentions and end up getting everything wrong.
On the other hand, you have to start somewhere. To see if it’s wise to pop the question, and your best bet is observing her behavior.
Try not to make assumptions or jump to conclusions. A woman who openly expresses female fantasies doesn’t necessarily want you in them. And, a woman who is shy or discreet might have regular threesomes with her ex and his new wife. You never know.
Even so, you can use these signals as a starting point.
Signs She Might Be Willing to Have a Threesome
She tells you straight up that she’d love to have a threesome with you.
If only life was always this easy!
It’s a rare bird who will just come out and save you all the trouble of guesswork. Even a woman who loves three-way sex may have been slut shamed or have other reasons for keeping her sex life under wraps.
But when it does happen this way, you’ve got the green light without all the rigmarole, so make the most of it!
She tells you she has regular fantasies about threesomes.
The next best thing is when she shares her threesome fantasies with you.
While not all women want to play out their fantasies in real time, this is nonetheless an important sign. It means the idea turns her on, which means she is more open to a threesome than someone who finds the thought creepy or underwhelming.
Use this opportunity to ask questions about her fantasies, her experiences, and what she might want to explore with you.
She is polyamorous, bisexual, or into group sex.
Again, don’t assume her being hot for other women or that non-monogamous means she’s interested in any of that right now, or with you.
That’s just the harsh reality. Nonetheless, obviously a woman who is attracted to other women or who has already been happily involved in threesomes or more is more open to the idea than someone with more traditional views of sexuality.
She loves watching porn.
Does porn genuinely turn her on? Does she watch it on her own, in addition to watching it with you?
Women who are open to and turned on by watching other couples and groups fucking might enjoy the real thing live.
She is sexually confident and comfortable with her body.
Women who are at home in their bodies, who don’t feel the need to be competitive and perfect, can be realistic and accepting of what she’s got. Threesomes can be very difficult for a woman who is insecure about her perceived flaws or who is always measuring up to other women.
If she’s comfortable in her own skin and in command of her own pleasure, chances are she’ll be willing to take that to the next level.
She loves sex.
We all go through various stages and phases. Sometimes we are interested in constant kinky sex adventures, and other times fuzzy pajamas and our dog sounds a lot more exciting than an orgy with Playboy bunnies and pricy champagne. Where is she right now?
If she’s interested in sexual adventure, kink, porn, fantasies, and dating other men, she might be at the right place for a threesome. It can’t hurt to bring it up.
How do you know if a woman is willing to have a threesome? Or not willing?
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