It’s hard to know what life was like back before pornography came into existence. There were probably people who were quite content with the fact that they didn’t have a lot of sexual encounters. They had no idea that they should be having a lot of sexual encounters, so they didn’t.
Other people—Roman aristocrats, Greek youths covered in olive oil, and Samurai—probably had all kinds of sex. So it goes. The average person, though, may not have had high expectations.
A friend of mind found that a lot of the guys she was dating had these crazy expectations like they ought to be able to ejaculate on her face every time they came, and that it was okay to call her all sorts of names during sex.
One has to ask where they learned that this was normal behaviour? It seems like some people internalize porn, but real-life sex isn’t like porn, and natural desire doesn’t work the way it does in porn.
No matter how much we would like things to be different, every woman that you find attractive is not obligated to fuck you if you feel like it. Nobody is obligated to suck your dick at the drop of a hat. It wouldn’t be too bad if that happened, mind you, but to make it happen you actually have to get someone to like and respect you.
Degrading your partner and having forceful, slightly hateful sex with them isn’t the route to a sustainable love. You are killing the goose with the golden egg if you don’t respect the person who has their mouth on your dick. Try to love them, and maybe they will love you right back.
On the flip side, there are definitely ladies who hate sucking dick, hate cum, and will try to make you feel bad about expressing your desires. These women probably aren’t for you, unless you enjoy some kind of domination or humiliation.
Some women start strong and then cut off the tap when they realize that they have their hooks in you and don’t have to do anything nice anymore. Others are reluctant at first, but get more and more willing to love semen as they get to like you. They start to get turned on by your being turned on. If you share your threesome fantasy, she may just indulge you.
Keep all the possibilities in your mind and never settle for less than what you deserve. Treat her nice, and hope for the best. Like porn, dating sites are readily available to everyone. With patience and perseverance, you can meet women who are also looking for group sex encounters.
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