While most women fantasize about threesomes or enjoy participating on occasion, for most of us it isn’t the same compulsive allure that many guys feel.
That’s because, for women, a threeway is often better imagined than in real life where they can be awkward, boring, overstimulating, or emotionally unsatisfying.
You are most likely to find that women want to experience threesomes with specific lovers, rather than the idea as a generic desire. In other words, she’s not that interested in any old threeway, but with a particular guy, it’s a definite go. That’s why you meet women all the time who had threesomes in the past or are planning to in the future, but don’t mention wanting one right now.
How can you make sure you are that guy, the one they want to have a threesome with, or repeat the pleasure with?
We asked women for their advice, so you don’t have to.
Threesome Advice from Women
Make an Emotional Connection
“Men get confused when you talk about emotion, mistaking it for traditional relationships or marriage. No. I’m interested in casual sex only, but my lovers still have a personality and a connection to me. Otherwise I could just use a hot sailor mannequin or a dildo with no mind attached. Guys who are considerate, funny, empathetic, and quirky do it for me. I’m more likely to have a threesome with a nerdy chemistry major than a slick hottie who thinks he’s God’s gift to women.” – Danylle, 24
What do women want in a threesome? Read 5 Threesome Fantasies Women DO Have.
Skip the Drinks
“Horny college women in bars might seem like a goldmine. And I’ve been that woman too many times. Sure, I not only consented, but I also begged you and seduced you with my gal pals. All those threesomes were horrible, by the way. I was looking for something else back then but thought it was sex that I wanted. In case you are wondering why I didn’t call. I’m not blaming you, but next time a woman who has been drinking hits on you and your mate, walk away. The best threesomes are the ones I’m having now—stone cold sober, with my husband.” – Alice, 30
Focus on Your Girlfriend
“Guys beg their girlfriend to have a threesome, then completely ignore her and give all their attention to new pussy. After, they are moody and keep talking about the other woman, stop showing the girlfriend affection, and then wonder why we don’t want to repeat the process. If you have a threesome WITH me, make sure I’m in it, make sure it’s for me, and don’t go all distant after. The guys who get repeat threeways are the ones who have this figured out.” – Jenna, 26
Read: How to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Secure about Threesomes
Show Gratitude
“When you take it for granted that I should do this or that, when you don’t feel lucky that you get to sleep with me, well, what am I putting out for then? When a woman risks her heart and shares her body with you, express your genuine gratitude.
If all we hear is how so and so does this, has bigger tits, wants it doggie, whatever it is, you are belittling what I have and what I share with you. You won’t get more, trust me. I’ll give it to someone who enjoys being with me. This goes double, triple, or more for threesomes when a woman puts aside her jealousy and anxiety to share herself in a big way with you.” – Jess, 29
Want to fully appreciate your next threesome? Read 6 Things a Threesome Teaches.
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