Sex can be awkward with two people, and with three your chances of something a little funny or weird or embarrassing happening only increases. Does that mean you should avoid threesomes, or give up on your fantasy of being with two beautiful babes? Hell to the no! It just means that you should be prepared for the possibilities so that you can handle them with grace and humility.
Sexual confidence goes a long way when it comes to being with more than one, and it can also help you maneuver your way through awkward situations. Here’s some tips to keep things going instead of going off the rails when things get a little wonky.
How to Deal with an Awkward Moment in a Threesome
Assess the Situation
You’re in the moment and a lot of things are happening, whether it’s just getting to know each other, or during foreplay, or when someone else is inside someone else! When an awkward moment hits, take a quick check-in mentally to assess. Is it something you need to address immediately? Does one of your lovers look upset? Can you just let it go. If addressing it will only make a mountain out of a molehill, keep on groovin’.
Use a Sense of Humor
What do most people do when they have an embarrassing spill in public? They laugh it off. And this can work well during a sexual mishap too. If you take sex too seriously, expecting it to play out like in your fave romcom or steamy porn scene, you are going to have a hard time with the real deal. Try making a joke or using a little self-deprecation to keep everyone comfortable.
Grin and Bear It
Sometimes a knowing smile is all you need. Some things don’t need a verbal response, but making eye contact to acknowledge a misstep or something a little embarrassing is a way to say you understand or that it’s no big deal. Use your assessment to gauge your response.
Change Lanes
Are you feeling tension? Is someone’s body language sending you a signal that what you’re doing is weird or uncomfortable? Are you giving directions to your wife that aren’t welcome. Whatever the awkward moment is, you can always get creative. Never be shy to suggest a change of pace or path when things are just not feeling right.
Take a Break
Threesomes can be mentally and physically exhausting which can lead to lovers being out of sync. If you’ve got all night (you always want to give yourself lots of time) then there’s no harm in taking a break. That might be a shower to clean up and refresh, or a snack to re-energize, or just a cuddle or nap. Think of it as a restart.
Forget about It
However you choose to navigate your way through an awkward moment, it’s best to put it behind you so that you can all enjoy the rest of your play time together. If it’s something that requires a full stop and sorting out through conversation, that’s different. But awkward moments are to be expected and not dwelled upon for the most part.
Make a Graceful Exit
If worse comes to worse and your awkward moment is so embarrassing that you just don’t know if you can still enjoy yourself, or your anxiety is through the roof, then it’s always an option to drop out or actually leave if you’re not at home. Say what you need to say politely, leave peacefully, and learn from your experience. It happens to the best of us.
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