If you’ve never actually had the almighty threesome, you’ve probably heard all sorts of tantalizing tales, some true… some false. Let me help you break down some of these myths.
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The Real Deal about Threesome Myths
Threesomes are best when spontaneous.
False. While the unknown and the impulsive are undoubtedly sexy, what’s not hot is going home without your unicorn after you and your girlfriend have a drink thrown at you by the third girl who rejects your offer.
Planning really helps avoid all the things that can go wrong in threesomes. It clarifies in advance what everyone’s comfortable with, what boundaries exist, when and where. It helps work through the logistics.
Although I do love the unexpected, I also love anticipation. Think of it this way: once the plans are made, it’s all about the buildup of excitement until your hot three-way date.
Or, as my current girlfriend said last night, “Only three more sleeps until Mr. X comes over and does us both!”
Your best bet is to look for a bisexual third.
False AND True. It’s a myth that all bisexual people want to be with a man and a woman at the same time. Some do and some don’t. Some bi girls never think about men while they’re dating women, while others perpetually miss “the other side.”
Also, many women and most men who enjoy threesomes are NOT bisexual. They like the different take on experience and they like experimenting, but they are having an adventure, not fulfilling their orientation.
That said, it doesn’t hurt to look for someone who likes both men and women if you’re looking for a third for a male-female couple. Just don’t exclude other options.
In my experience, most people want to experience sex play with their own gender at least once or twice, and even more want to see their partner get off with another person. So don’t rule anyone out!
Threesomes usually mean two girls and a guy.
True. It’s no surprise that the FFM is a huge crowd-pleasing fantasy for dudes.
But don’t ever assume it’s the definition of a threesome. When she says threesome, she might be thinking of you and your hot friend Antonio. Three men in the bed is a very common Saturday night in some circles, and then there are Saturday afternoons, which I personally like to spend wearing out my tongue on two chicks.
Women go along with threesomes just to please men.
False. Get over yourself, man! The last time I did anything just to please a man was in grade ten.
Now, I LOVE pleasing a man. Don’t get me wrong. It’s exciting. But I love three-ways because they’re red hot for me. Sometimes, as I mentioned above, you guys aren’t even there!
Threesomes work best when no one’s in a hurry.
True. Now I wouldn’t rule out a quickie if the alternative was getting nothing.
Keep in mind that some girls take a while to warm up—it’s biology—and people who are new to each other are going to prefer a little chatting and threesome foreplay. Plus, it’s great to know you can keep on going and no one is watching the clock.
But… it never hurts to have a cut off time. This doesn’t have to be definitive. But saying in advance, “We should wrap things up around midnight because my partner is working early,” or “It’s up to you, but we hope you’ll stay over with us again this week,” helps guests understand your expectations.
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