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Where to Meet Swinger Couples

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If the concept of “swinging” or “swingers” makes you think of form-fitting chevron polyester bodysuits and flat-ironed tresses, rest assured it didn’t go the way of the dodo or disco.

Swinging is alive and well, and well, everywhere.

The polyamory community includes people who like to swing.

Polyamory—people who make love or have romantic relationships with multiple partners, or share a primary partner—has always existed and is thriving today. It comes in many manifestations, from open relationships to marrying more than one person. It has many expressions across cultures.

Polyamory means “love of many.” It can mean you maintain a sexual relationship with several women, or it could mean you enjoy group sex. It could just mean you are open to dating other people even though you have a steady.

Swinging is a lifestyle enjoyed inside and outside polyamory.

Swinging is more specific, and it used to double as “wife swapping.” It implies a couple in a relationship is interested in “swinging” with other couples in similar situations. Couples get together for dates and swap partners in bed, or everyone joins in the fun at once.

Today, lots of couples call it “the lifestyle,” although polyamorous people can refer to themselves with those terms too. Labels don’t matter, and you’ll always want to communicate desires and intentions clearly and not make assumptions. But in general, you’re likely to find other couples who want to mix it up among people active in polyamorous communities or “the lifestyle.”

How to Meet Swinger Couples

Understand, swinging couples are everywhere.

Whether you’re in a small town or a bustling metropolis, a rural farming community, or a nightclub in Hollywood, swingers are everywhere. Couples who swing are in Europe and Mexico, Botswana and India. They are at the office, at church, at Toys “R” Us, and at the gym. There are swingers down the street and across the hall.

Be open minded, and keep your eyes and ears open wherever you are. Ask around.

Find the right parties.

Private house parties have always been central to the lifestyle. They afford people the opportunity to invite friends and friends of friends who might be interested in meeting other open minded people, expanding the social network and the circles of opportunity for swingers.

If you know any polyamorous people, ask them if they know anyone who will offer you an invite.

Attend swinger’s clubs or fetish nights.

Lots of nightclubs have their own parties for adventurous couples, and some clubs are exclusively for this market. You can also find kink or fetish events where many attendees are likely to be polyamorous.

Use social media to your advantage.

If loud nightclubs aren’t your thing, and you’re more interested in brunches or morning jogs with other hot couples, never fear. You can find communities with swingers all over social media. Craigslist used to be the swingers’ go-to, and be home to some who like to swap.

Meetup.com is a massive social matching site where you can find atheists to debate ethics over whisky tastings, fellow soccer dads, poetry book clubs, or breakfasts for swingers. Facebook can lead you to “lifestyle” groups and local couples.

Join niche online dating sites that celebrate swinging.

If you don’t want to let it all hang out on social media, niche dating sites may be a better alternative. There are sites just for polyamorous people like PolyamoryDate.com, and sites for adventurous couples like CouplesDating.com who are interested in mixing partners or group sex encounters.

This can be a great, hassle-free way to meet swingers and like-minded couples looking for sex, love, and dating in your area  Mainstream dating sites can also be useful, but you need to be very clear in your profile and not afraid to put yourself out there.

Are you into swinging? Where do you meet other couples? Please share in the comments!

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