All of life can be a learning ground, yes? Me thinks so, mes amis! I sincerely feel that masturbation is not only a magnificent place to meditate and be in the moment, but it’s an even greater place to learn things about your body’s limits, desires, and needs.
Masturbation is a surprisingly open area of life to explore and expand one’s creative and imaginary curiosities. Then beyond that, the obvious and most sought after realm of sexuality is there for us all—a single partner.
Most porn in the world is based on a duo doing the thing, and it’s obviously another even more interesting place to learn and grow sexually, especially and hopefully if someone is in a monogamous relationship that sticks to the boundaries expressed between partners (not that WE practice that kind of limiting sexual scenario but we hear it exists, so we must address it.)
Beyond that choice, is an even MORE magnificent place to push your boundaries of sexuality—in a threesome. BUT before we go even a step or a single fantasy scene further, we must make sure we are secure in our selves and our skin, as we explore and investigate the interests we have in alternate levels of sexuality like a threesome.
Group sex encounters are the WORST places to not know where your boundaries are, and to have others confuse, pressure or manipulate you into making a choice you don’t want or might resist making otherwise if you didn’t have the temptation as well as the intimidation.
It is very possible though to not have those things in the room, and not have any regrets about having a threesome. And there is very much the possibility that you might be offered a blowjob or cunnilingus from a person of another gender or the same gender for the first time, and you decide after REALLY considering the consequences and benefits that YES, this is something you would like to try.
When you experience that fun new blowjob or cunnilingus, you will enjoy it as much as your body allows you to in that moment. Then there you are—learning and living and loving life on the edge of fantasy! Look at you go!
Take it slow, honor your truth, and learn to enjoy!
Sincererly,
Addi “Malcolm Lovejoy” Stewart
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