Science and nature are basically the same thing but the inverted version of each other, playing out in all kinds of wacky and wonderful ways. There is no perfect circle in nature. There are no two snowflakes alike. There are no human beings equal on both sides of their body.
And… no monogamous relationship is ever balanced perfectly. This is just an unspoken reality that we all unwittingly enter, and just hope that there’s enough give and take that we aren’t left nauseous and exploited without power at the end of the weekend together.
Furthermore, there is almost no such thing as a perfectly balanced threesome, where all people’s emotional, sexual, and intellectual investment hovers around 33%. That would be amazing, but that would also be robotic!
Many threesomes involve a couple seeking a third to join, so the couple already have an emotional foundation that doesn’t exist with the third party towards anyone else. Thus it CAN’T be equal or even kinda close, but for the sake of sexy shits and giggles, we do these things anyways.
I know I CERTAINLY have been in MANY a situation where a boyfriend or husband has said, “Yeah, can you do something awesome to my lady or wife, and then be gone for the night?” And I’m like “Yup. Yes, sir. I can.”
And then I, I mean we, she and me, do the do, like ooh wee! And if he is involved, then his connection to me is usually very limited if not neutral, and thus 100% of my attention and energy is focused on 33% of the people in the threesome! Which isn’t a problem if everyone is happy with the flow of energy taking on such characteristics for the scenario… usually, people are, but…
Sometimes, they’re not. And this can come to light during the threesome, or after. Beware and be warned. Unless your name is Jack Tripper and you’re in a sitcom called Three’s Company, then the balance of sexual exchange just isn’t going to be equal.
Next time you enter into a threesome, and you have to deal with this cold-hot bittersweet reality, I want you to go the bathroom, close the door, look in the mirror, and say to yourself in your head… no, scream this: I know there is no such thing as a perfectly balanced threesome, NEVERTHELESS, I ACCEPT THIS AS A PART OF MY DESTINY!
And then go have amazing sex with those two people, because the damn ground under your feet isn’t even balanced perfectly.
Walk on,
Addi Stewart
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