Sometimes, the stars just don’t align when you want. Sometimes, things just are not together for the reasons you think they should be, or normally would be. Sometimes, your body just doesn’t work when the moment of sexy truth arrives, and the fantasy doesn’t happen the way you dream.
Sometimes, lovers want you when you don’t want them, or you want them when they don’t want you. And circles just keep swirling around, without connecting on the level that you dream and wish and hope for. And this can be your reality for not only a polyamorous twosome that you’re trying to make happen, but also a THREESOME! That’s when it can REALLY take a while for things to come together.
Some threesomes pop off on the very first attempt to get together, and it’s a wonderful experience. You all have the time, the energy, the location, the food, the drink, the alignment, the chemistry, and all the necessary safe boundaries and requirements necessary to make your wet dream manifest. But that is NOT every threesome scenario, that’s for sure.
There have been threesomes that I’ve been a part of, where it has taken YEARS for all the required details to align. Sometimes its not even the usual problem that’s the problem (usually it’s a man that’s the problem. I don’t mean to point the finger, but…)
I had a threesome dream plan with a couple, a man and woman, that was being stoked for months and months—the three of us kept saying, “We’re going to do this!” every time we met. But then we went to a sex party, where my ladyfriend kept avoiding me when I was trying to find out her intentions and energy.
The man and I? Damn, it was fireballs! Every time we saw each other, we would devour each other’s faces. Him and I had NO problem showing intimacy, and we enjoyed doing so. We were warming up the wet dream pool, and waiting for his girlfriend to dive in with us—the water was fine! But nope, she kept dipping her toes in and saying, “I don’t know if I want to swim there anymore!” Eventually, I got out of that threesome dream pool.
I still talk and flirt with him, feeling the chemistry that still exists. But she was not truthfully part of that passion, and that’s why that threesome will probably never happen.
Another dream threesome took six years to manifest, and it was MAGNIFICENT! There were married people involved, jealousy to get over, multiple complex relationships that unfolded surprisingly and shockingly, confessions to clear up, and shocking displays of desire to complicate the situation—all part of the serpentine, long, hard, beautiful journey to a LONG-AWAITED FOURSOME!
I need not rehash ALL the microscopic details of why it happened the way it did. I’ll just say that it was torture and pleasure for it to unfold so slowly, but safely and sweetly. All of us are friends and lovers now, and that makes everything worth it.
Know that some threesomes will take LOTS. OF. TIME. before they come to fruition. And if that’s the case… WAIT. Good things do come to those who wait!
I promise,
Addi Stewart
Tell us what you think