I recently found myself in possession of a lot of ukuleles. I didn’t buy any of them, they just kind of came to me. I think it was because I was opening myself up to the notion that I should have more than one ukulele, and so, because I was attuning myself to those vibrations in the universe, ukuleles started to come to me.
This is all a part of positive thinking, and actualization. It doesn’t happen right away, but over time. It happens with practice and focus, and it happens because the more we put our attention onto certain subjects and possibilities, the more open we are when those possibilities present themselves.
You probably don’t want two ukuleles. I get that. But what you might want is two lovers, and to have them at the same time. How do you get there, though? Having a threesome is the same as learning yoga, kung fu, or how to water ski. The point is that you need to practice streamlining situations into threesomes, and eventually you will learn how to make them happen.
One way to start is to start exploring polyamory. First off, this opens you up to the possibility of having multiple lovers. Next, it will eliminate all the monogamous prudes who aren’t interested in going down that road with you. Face it, a person who keeps shutting down your dream of a threesome just isn’t going to pivot one day and suddenly want it. People either are intrigued by it, or they aren’t.
You save yourself a lot of headaches in the long term by being honest up front.
Also, study up on “ethical non-monogamy.” If you appreciate the rules and conversations surrounding it, you will make yourself a lot more attractive to people who regularly have sexual experiences with multiple partners. I mean, okay, you might have a random threesome with a couple of women you meet at a bar… and don’t get me wrong, that will be hot!
But… but, if you want to have a sustainable sex life with multiple partners and keep the good times going, you are going to have to embrace a sense of the polyamorous lifestyle and community. This can sometimes be hokey, but it can also lead to the chance you might have amazing and satisfying sexual encounters with a lot of different and interesting people.
The main thing is that it takes work. It may take time to start happening, and you may have to change yourself a little to get there… but if you want it, the work will get you there!
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