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She Wants a Threesome: Now Make it Happen

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Women know that threesomes are men’s number one fantasy because not only do they tell us, but they also give it top billing on porn sites. But what about our threesome fantasies? It may not be our number one, although it is for some, but we do have specific sexy scenarios we’d love to be in.

It’s not always easy to make this a reality when you are already in a relationship, but it sure is easier than when you’re single and just floating around. Use these tips to make her threesome dream come true, and maybe your own as well!

How to Make HER Threesome Happen

1. Bring Up the Subject

The truth is that many women fantasize about threesomes, but we never share this desire unless asked. This hesitancy might be because we’re shy—it’s not easy for a lot of us to talk about sex in plain terms—or it might be that we are worried that our partner might take it the wrong way and feel jealous. Be open and actively listen to what she has to say.

Read: Why a Threesome Is HER Fantasy

2. Share Your Threesome Fantasy

One way to help a lover to open up about her threesome fantasies is to share yours first. Go out on that limb and trust will naturally build.

If she shoots you down or declines to share, or tells you there’s no way someone else is coming into the bedroom, at least you know. But if she does have a threesome fantasy, you can now move forward in making it happen.

3. Ask Her for Specifics

There are so many threesome variables that you want to know exactly what her fantasy looks like before you figure out how to get the ball rolling. Is she interested in another woman, or a man joining? Does she want you to participate or have you watch from the sidelines? Will there be penetration, front and back? Toys? Where does she see all this going down, your place or a hotel? So many questions to ask!

Read: 5 Threesome Fantasies Women DO Have

4. Discuss Her Limits and Boundaries

We all have these when it comes to sex, and not talking about them before the actual act can cause a whole lot of confusion and awkward moments. Both of you should be clear on what you will and won’t do and when the time comes. And you meet a potential third, you’ll want to know their threesome boundaries as well.

Read: 7 Boundaries to Discuss before Threesomes

5. Let Her Choose the Third

While it’s fun to browse dating profiles together on dating sites when looking for a third play partner, if this is her fantasy, let her have the final say. The busty redhead she wants may not have been your first choice, but knowing how turned on your girlfriend or wife will be should be enough.

Read: How to Find a Threesome Online

6. Set the Threesome Scene

Try to create an environment that will make the details of her fantasy come true. If she’s hoping for some kinky fun, you may want to have restraints or other toys handy. Is dress-up part of the program? Buy her some lingerie and accessories. Make sure you have all the basics—condoms and lube and fresh towels—that you and her and your third might need.

7. Be Selfless and Lean into Discomfort

Even though sex is a two-way street, it’s okay to make it all about a partner sometimes, about their experience and enjoyment. And sometimes that means going out of your comfort zone.

Maybe having another man in the room isn’t your threesome fantasy, but you say yes because you know how much this will excite her. And maybe you are willing to give a blowjob to another man, but penetration is off the table. See how far you can push your own limits, without breaking them.

Read: 5 Tips for Straight Men in MMF Threesomes

Once she’s ready to get started, find threesome partners together at these popular threesome dating sites.

What threesome have you helped come true for a lover? Please share in the comments!

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