Have you seen the classic Dave Chappelle Wrap-It-Up skit?
It had something that human life sincerely could use. In the skits, when someone was taking far too long to say or do what they were expected to, a guy would pull out this game-show-like box and press the red button to flash its light and message. Then someone would say, “Wrap It Up, B!”
You have to know when it’s time to gracefully bow out and say peace, because nobody wins them all, and nobody should expect things to go exactly as planned, certainly not in a group-sex get together.
I have been in a threesome scenario where I instantly chose to not be part of the situation because of something unpleasant that I discovered. It’s not always just being someone who knows when they are overstaying their welcome. It’s also about being someone who is honest to your desires and instincts, and being able to say no thank you if you really don’t want to get involved or go further.
When It’s Time End a Threesome
When You’re Not Feeling It
A major misconception in threesomes is that all three people have the same sexual desire and same sexual appetites. That’s ridiculous. When you go to the Mandarin buffet, do all your friends eat the equal amount of food? Never! This is the same for sex parties.
If you’re the person that didn’t eat a good meal that day or for some other reason you just don’t have the sexual spark to keep going, then I suggest some kissing and caressing, then quietly and without much disturbance, rest yourself on the sidelines. Watching can be just as fun!
Read: What Happens when a Threesome Disappoints
When You’re Low on Energy
You may have been going for a good long while when all of a sudden you feel the need to tap out. A good way to make your exit is to say you need a drink of water. It’s polite and lets your lovers know that it’s time to replenish your body while shifting gears.
It may be what the group is thinking collectively, so you can all disband together either for the night or just an interim break if it’s a sleepover kind of threesome. Maybe you start again in a hour or so, who knows!? But for now, it’s time to recharge the batteries.
When You Feel a Natural Conclusion
A threesome often ends naturally without too much awkwardness, unless one person is demanding to keep things going or someone behaves badly and needs to be ejected (let’s hope you don’t experience either of these.)
When things are all said and done, or I don’t feel like I want to continue doing what others are doing, I like to clean myself up and think about all the fun I’ve just had. I love a long hot shower alone, but another wonderful joy is sharing the shower with one or both lovers. And it doesn’t need to get sexual, but damn sure it often does, and there’s obviously nothing wrong with that!
Read: What to Do after a Threesome is Over
When a Condom Breaks
When a condom breaks, it’s really time to stop and pump the brakes. Obviously it might continue if one has more condoms to spare, but it should be with the greatest of caution, and maybe not even after that point, especially if the condom can’t be found, which happens sometimes!
A condom can come off inside someone, and it can be difficult to get out. This is a time to stop the fun and games, and take care of the person’s needs. You may even still be naked, but don’t let desire block out the need to fix a serious problem. Support this person in anything they need to fix the matter. If they are unable to retrieve the condom, you may have to even go to emergency. This is why wearing condoms that fit is so important.
Read: Quick Condom Fixes for Threesome Sex
When a Breakdown Occurs
Sometimes, it happens. You’re having a threesome, and the sex is awesome, but all of a sudden someone breaks down, maybe starts crying. And you don’t know the reason, and they might not know either. It happens to the best of humans!
If it’s you breaking down, you can just bow out gracefully if you want to be alone or leave even. If it’s someone else, stop immediately and support them by listening if they want to talk, or ask what they need in that moment from you. You likely are not going to get this threesome up and running again, so focus on the person who needs comfort and compassion.
Good love and good luck,
Addi Stewart
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