Falling for the other woman during an FFM threesome happens. Not as often as girlfriends or wives sometimes fear, but that doesn’t mean it can’t or won’t. It does.
You can’t stop thinking about the amazing woman that you and your girlfriend brought into your bed. Now what?
Know that it’s a chemical thing.
Keep things in perspective, even when your feelings are all over the map.
We are wired for novelty and variety, so it only makes sense that a giant voltage of arousal is going to linger. Enjoy it while it lasts, and let it fade. Don’t mistake it for lasting love.
Recognize it’s probably temporary.
Are you going to feel this way in a year? In a month? Probably not. Tomorrow? Maybe. Try to enjoy the high of it rather than being distressed or feeling that you have to act in some way. Just let it run through you. It means you’re alive!
Understand the risks of hooking up with her on your own.
Unless you’re polyamorous, and even if you are, hooking up with women you share with your partner can be a recipe for disaster.
Think very carefully about what you are willing to lose. There are reasons you are with the woman you’re with now. A simple crush hasn’t changed those reasons. Losing her, or losing her trust, won’t bring you future happiness. The likelihood that the other woman is your true soul mate is almost nil, and she mi8ight be downright incompatible or annoying once the high wears off.
Indulge the fact that it’s pure chemistry by having more threeways.
If your partner was as incredibly aroused as you were, sounds like a great direction is to hook up all together again.
What man in his right mind would entertain sneaking around with the other woman when you can get back in bed with both of them? Seriously, examine your head.
Use your hyper-aroused state to rekindle intimacy with your primary partner.
If you and your girlfriend have a strong relationship and it means a lot to you, you can channel these crushes, however intense, in a way that benefits the relationship. Depending on your personalities, you can even share what’s on your mind. If both of you understand your feelings are natural and that you are committed to your relationship, confessing can bring you closer.
Don’t confess just to unburden your guilt, though, or if you think it will hurt her.
Either way, the extra wattage in your horny can go directly into the sex you have with your girlfriend. The fantasy and memory of seeing the two women together and all the dirty things they did to each other—and to you—is a gift that keeps on giving, even if you don’t all hook up again.
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