The MMF threesome works for a variety of fetishes and fantasies including the cuckolding kink—guys who get horny at the idea that the girlfriend is getting satisfaction elsewhere, or that another man’s assets are more likely to satisfy her.
This threesome also works for the voyeur, who loves to watch. It’s what we all watch during porn—the vast majority of porn scenes include us, outside the computer screen, and a woman being fucked by a man.
In a sense, everything else is gravy.
If you want to make the most of this experience, here’s how.
Understand you’re not gay or bisexual.
I hesitate to even put this in here, because it doesn’t matter if you are and giving this thought space implies that it does. But for dudes who are confused by the contradictions of desire, understand how common and normal it is for men to picture men in their sex fantasies.
We watch men and women fucking in pornography, not just women. The man can represent “the man”—you—but it’s also a physiological reality that testosterone and adrenaline skyrocket when another guy is getting attention or when a guy sees a woman getting sex from another man.
Take the time to plan this threesome out the first few times.
Unless you’re both routine swingers or have done this a few times already, don’t throw it at her out of left field.
“Hi honey, while you were in the washroom, the waitress brought the beer and wings. And oh, by the way, this is Bob. I invited him over to fuck you later because I thought it would be hot to watch.”
Talk it out before and browse threesome dating profiles together to see who she likes and might consider sleeping with.
Have a game plan about who, where, and how to direct the event, so that you both know what the other is expecting.
Own your fantasy.
I was made to feel very bad once when a boyfriend who had been begging forever to watch me get nailed got all weird after it happened.
Question whether your fantasy can hold up to reality—not every fantasy needs to come to life, and some are busted by coming true.
Own your kink and don’t let your negative emotions ruin your good time, or hers.
Decide in advance whether or not you’ll join the party.
Everyone needs to know. All threeways have different boundaries. Some have none—anything goes. Others are about guys touching the woman, and not each other. Some are hands off for the onlooker. Some couples have an act reserved just for them—no intercourse, no anal, no oral with the third.
When the kink in question is all about watching, the other man might assume you won’t be otherwise involved. Your wife might assume that the session ends with you so horny that you can’t keep your dick out of her, and be disappointed when you retire to the shower after coming into a towel.
It’s best to have an idea of what to expect, for everyone involved, and be open to things evolving.
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