Many couples say NO to polyamorous, ongoing threesome arrangements when they connect with single men for threesomes. That’s generally how it goes down with many threesomes that want to stay within controllable boundaries and normal connection levels.
People fuck and suck and play around all they want while in the group scene—the Friday night or the sex weekend or the trip to the sex club or whatever the special situation is—and after that, it’s THANK YOU for everything—don’t call us, we’ll call you. And there’s an unknown percentage of threesomes that only exist in their sexual spectrums, and never continue as personal and/or sexual relationships that flourish and expand and repeat.
From Threesome to Polyamorous Relationship
I want to say it doesn’t have to be this way if you don’t live in fear of the problems that might not even happen when you open your threesomes to the power of polyamory and pleasure connection. I have a couple who I am friends with and have been lucky enough to have a personal relationship with both, and a mutual lover who is also with BOTH these lovers.
I have a singular relationship with one person in the couple, and we have both a friendship and an erotic and even a spiritual/business/sex work connection that keeps expanding the potential and possibilities of the connection. This is a wonderful person in my life in ways far beyond my ability to express.
I have to say that my gentle request and respectful approach to having an extra polyamorous connection to this person (and a slight one with their partner) has been extremely educational in how to respect both close and distant boundaries with someone who you’re both friends and lovers with, as well as business associates.
The one caveat I must note: KNOW which relationships really should stay to one sexual encounter and no more, and which ones should continue as a throuple or something else.
One Night or Ongoing Threesome Arrangement?
I will not put some kind of quota on which should be which, but just know that some people have different intentions in their playtime connections. Even if you want to continue things as friends and possibly lovers, nothing ruins a threesome more than a person who doesn’t know when to NOT try and make personal connections happen by pushing an agenda that only serves themselves.
But IF you ask the exact right person (or couple) at the exact right time, you may find yourself in a throuple or the ongoing threesome arrangement you are looking for. Always respect boundaries and know that this is delicate territory, and to not be selfish, even if you think you are being friendly and honest.
Many people meet thirds and couples for group sex encounters on niche sites like those on our list of threesome dating sites. When you write a specific profile that lays it all out there, you’re less likely to have any confusion or awkward moments before, after, and during your threesomes.
If you push for more sex that others don’t want, you are crossing a boundary and ruining a singular timeless threesome by trying to have your cake and eat it too when you’re not invited to the table again. Don’t be that person! If word gets around that you are trying to push threesomes into personal private poly or mono relationships, you will stop getting invitations to ANY threesomes!
So yeah. Choose wisely, friend.
One love,
Addi Stewart
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