I have a theory that I believe with all my heart, and I try to tell everyone who gives a fuck (pun intended). We ALL have INFINITE VIRGINITIES!
Our first penis-in-vagina experience in life is CERTAINLY a milestone worth celebrating and cherishing, if that’s what we want. But what about our first penis-in-bum? What about our first strap-on-in-bum? What about our first threesome? What about our first fisting? There are so many firsts we can have in the infinite realm of human sexuality, and we have a lifetime to explore and experience the greatness that is this human body we all occupy.
The first threesome is really a unique experience when you get to realize there are four arms and four legs and two genitals and maybe four breasts or four testicles to play with instead of the typical two! Bask in the glow, and enjoy the entire thing!
When there is any more than three people in your group sex encouneter, you are OFFICIALLY in an ORGY, and that is certainly something to celebrate and remember!
One of the main things I want to say: Never try to do EVERYTHING in the universe at your first orgy. You don’t need to pressure yourself to go above and beyond your capabilities to try and maximize the potential of 4+ people offering themselves sexually to you and yours. Just take it slow, and meet every chance to connect with what you have to offer in the moment… and then do it again, a few moments later… and then again.
5 Tips for Orgies
1. Don’t Act too Eager
Being a greedy kid in a candy store will just make people feel a bit too uncomfortable to open up more to the moment. Don’t give off creepy or desperate vibes. Be happy to be there, or be VERY joyful, sure. But don’t be high-fiving everyone loudly (unless you normally do that) and hootin’ and hollerin’ like you won the lottery. Have some balance in your expression of enthusiasm and your dignity and reserve.
People who can’t stay present in the moment in orgies usually burn themselves out by overthinking or by being too disconnected from the others—being all in their expectations instead of the moment. Just take it one idea at a time. Hopefully, you have all night.
2. Connect to Everyone
Make sure you take the time to say “hello, thank you, nice to meet you, pleasure to play with you” or something to that effect to EVERYONE that you are there having fun with, even if you don’t have any sexual connection to the person that you are talking to.
Honor, respect, greet and/or acknowledge everyone that is participating in the game. You know how athletes shake hands with all the other athletes at the end of an important game? Yeah, well the same honor system applies! Actually, the same idea of sportsmanship kinda applies too, ha ha.
If you are not into same-sex connections and you have that at your orgy, then at least say greetings to the person you are not connecting with, and make them feel comfortable and appreciated, since their happiness will translate through others and reach into you to elevate your happiness, and vice versa. If everyone does that for each other, then everyone will feel great when it’s over, whether they touched and fucked or not.
3. Bring More than Enough Protection
Bring all the condoms and lubes you can find. There’s nothing worse than being in the middle of an orgy and realizing, damn, all my good condoms are gone! You don’t want to have to be the guy that runs to the store in the middle of a fucking orgy to get the condoms.
It’s far better to end the situation off with a bunch of unused safe-sex products than to run out at any point in time. You will always be able to use them in the future, so don’t worry about getting too much. It’s just good etiquette to have a whole bunch of extras stocked at the orgy.
4. Communicate Your Boundaries and Desires
It’s kind of obvious, but tell the people you are there with what you’re cool with doing and what you’re NOT cool with doing You can kiss and have fun and joke all you want, but the moment someone does something that crosses a boundary—a vibrator is suddenly up your ass, just because you were arched in the prone position—you will cease to enjoy being at the orgy anymore and will want to leave or at least go to the washroom and have a talk with yourself.
Express the things you don’t want, both before things get started, and possibly while things are happening too. Just be direct, and move on to things you do like. Find the common sexy ground.
5. Be Thankful to the Planners and Hosts
Always be overly gracious and excessively appreciative to the people, places, and things that all combined to make the orgy happen. Thank the owner of the house or apartment or wherever. Thank all the people who showed up. Thank the people who brought the sex toys. Thank the people who paid for the space. Thank the weather for not being shitty enough to stop the sexy event from happening!
Don’t just say “thank you” a hundred times and walk away. Help clean up and empty the garbage that’s full of used condoms and tissues. Help rearrange the furniture and put the kink toys away when the night is over. Help keep the noise down if the neighbors come over and ask, “What’s going on here?” Just be helpful and thankful in all the ways you can think of, and don’t mess shit up for others, including yourself.
So yeah, those are some helpful tips to make your first orgy pop off successfully. I hope these allow you to have the experience of your life… so far. Because there’s no reason your second orgy can’t be better!
Truly, passionately, deeply,
Addi Stewart
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