Not all orgasms are the same, every time. Not only do orgasms between women vary in intensity or duration, but they vary every time for each woman.
Some threesome orgasms are sweet, pleasant, and soft. Some are so intense they are almost uncomfortable. Orgasms are influenced by age, arousal, nutrition, focus, hormones, her menstrual cycle, chance, attraction, experience, mental health, and many more factors.
Here’s what you need to know about better, stronger orgasms for women.
The Truth about Threesome Orgasms for Her
She may not have an orgasm during a threesome.
You may have noticed your lady lovers didn’t come during a threesome and assumed they were not as excited as you thought they were. Don’t make this mistake.
If you were attentive, generous and open, and you prioritized her pleasure, don’t worry about it. Always ask a woman what she needs, but don’t put too much pressure on her to perform with an operatic climax.
Trust me, I would rather be in a threesome than masturbate at home—and yet, frigging myself is the sure way to a quick, powerful climax.
Some women experience difficulty in orgasm when there is “too much going on.” Novelty and overstimulation can be very exciting but make it difficult to focus. That’s why many female lovers have orgasms later but not with new lovers. It’s nothing to worry about.
Read: Reasons a Woman Might Not Orgasm in a Threesome
It’s essential that you and her are both focused.
My body responds to all kinds of sensations and revels in the variety of touches and experiences. But to get to orgasm, it’s going to require focus. Mine, and yours. I need repeated, rhythmic, uninterrupted, long-lasting stimulation. Something as simple as changing position means “starting over.”
It’s a lot of work—not that I’m complaining, but this is something guys need to better understand. If you’re licking her pussy and then you switch it up to lavish my nipples with your tongue, both of those things feel fantastic. But the switch in stimulation means an interruption in the orgasmic process for many women.
Every woman is different, but the general rule is this: enjoy variety until she’s ready to come. Then maintain focus until she gets there.
Read: Give Women Multiple Orgasms in Threesomes
Relaxation is important, but not always easy.
Another reason a wild orgy may make orgasm difficult for her is because she needs to be relaxed. And that’s not always how she may feel when she’s taking it deep from behind while sucking on another woman’s luscious pussy. Nerves, novelty, and a subconscious threat—another woman, fear of disease or pregnancy—can mean she’s not relaxed.
Familiarity, repeated sessions, a bit of wine or weed, a warm shower, safe sex, and trusted partners are some of the ways she will relax.
Read: How to Feel More Relaxed in a Threesome
Simultaneous penetration and clitoral stimulation can help.
Most women need to have clitoral stimulation to climax, so that’s why cunnilingus and hand stimulation work so great. But what’s REALLY powerful is the old in and out combined with clitoral stimulation. This is why she comes best when she uses her hand, or yours, while you’re inside her.
This fact means a threesome can be really beneficial to her orgasm. You can suck on her clit from underneath while she is getting is receiving doggy style by another man or by a lover with a strap-on. Or you can use a dildo and watch the action while the other partner uses her hand on her pussy. During a threesome, you can also use a bullet vibrator on her clit during penetration.
Arousal is key when building to a bigger threesome orgasm.
Withholding orgasm, or getting close and pulling back over and over are ways to increase the intensity of her orgasm when she gets there. The more aroused a woman is, the more cataclysmic her orgasm will be.
For more threesome orgasm tips, read How to Juggle Orgasms for Three.
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