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Coming too Fast? Premature Ejaculation Tips

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Getting naked with two lovers can increase your chance of popping off prematurely. You’re doubling your excitement and doubling your visual stimuli and doubling your sensation. On top of that, you might be nervous. All of these can mean you come too quickly.

That’s not premature ejaculation, though, as a condition. Every guy blows his load too soon from time to time. If it happens to you occasionally, you are perfectly normal.

The average time it takes a guy to ejaculate is five to seven minutes. Most guys want to take control over when they climax and expand the time so that they can enjoy longer, and to accommodate women who usually take longer to orgasm.

The next time you find yourself unable to hold back during a threeway, don’t make a big deal over it. Tell the truth—you were so turned on, you were overwhelmed. Don’t throw in the towel—the threesome isn’t over! Carry on with your hands, mouth, and the rest of your body. Your dick will get hard again in no time.

On the other hand, if you routinely explode within a minute, there are treatments for premature ejaculation. Here’s what you need to know, and a few PE tips and ideas.

Premature Ejaculation Tips

There are two kinds of premature ejaculation.

Primary PE is when you’ve always been fast. Acquired PE is when you’ve developed the problem along the way.

Anxiety is your enemy.

Most guys who come like lightning feel ashamed, embarrassed, or nervous about sex. But anxiety about your performance makes it more likely to happen again.

Getting comfortable with a lover and exploring sex together can improve your time by reducing your anxiety.

Take your dick off center stage.

If your dick isn’t doing the tricks want, focus on using your mouth, hands, and imagination. Making out, oral sex, kinks, dildos—all of these can take the stimulation off of your dick. Whether you are in a threesome or one on one, focusing on the big picture and not on your penis and orgasm will mean you can still give and receive a lot of pleasure.

Premature ejaculation is psychological and physiological.

PE has two root causes, and often both.

Stress or trauma, sexual shame, and fear of pleasing a woman can all trigger lack of control over ejaculation. Inexperienced guys and young guys often start off with fast orgasms.

PE can also be physical. Very high hormone levels and very sensitive genitals can make things happen fast. Abnormally high neurotransmitters can also contribute.

Premature ejaculation treatments are effective.

There are lots of things that can be done to prolong orgasm. Techniques include practice with orgasm delay, mental distraction, strategic squeezing, concentration, stopping and starting—they can be with a partner or solo or both.

There are also desensitization creams, or simply wearing a condom because it reduces sensation. Meditation or anxiety intervention including medication might also be useful. Medication to treat hormone imbalances can get at the root cause of premature ejaculation for some guys.

Accept what’s happening in the moment.

Rest assured, most experiences of premature ejaculation are temporary or treatable. So don’t be ashamed about talking to your partners or your doctor if need be.

When PE is persistent and unchanging, it can be emotionally upsetting and interfere with sex. You may fear leaving your lovers unfulfilled. You can still enjoy sex, including threesomes, but will have to be loving to yourself and find understanding lovers. Use your imagination and a dildo. Leave your dick until last. Explore kinks where you leave your pants on—there are many ways to play.

Have you experienced premature ejaculation? Please share in the comments!

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