A strap-on dildo and harness are essential sex toys for some of us, and others have never even thought about trying strap-on sex. Some of us are happy with an array of dildos we already have on hand, and others have a cock and assume it’s the only one necessary.
Whether you’ve played with plastic penises or not, adding another one to the mix can be exciting and fun. A strap-on is an amazing toy for threesomes, because your own dick can get tired servicing two pussies. Even better, let one of the ladies take the reins and do her for your pleasure—or do YOU for HER pleasure.
Here’s what to know before you buy.
Strap-On Shopping Tips for Throuples
Realize that size matters.
You might fantasize about her drilling a huge eight-inch cock into your hungry asshole, but if your butt is a virgin, you’re going to need to start training with something a little smaller.
On the other hand, your lady lovers might fancy something larger than life. It can be very exciting for a horny woman to take on a thick, fat cock while you watch.
My advice if cost is not an issue is to invest in a few sizes—something small and manageable, something standard, and something ridiculous to “work towards.”
Determine who wants what, and who’s wearing.
The kind of harness and dildo you choose for your strap-on depends who will be wearing it.
Consider the intended recipient and his or her taste when choosing dildo size, unless of course, the wearer is a dominant and the receiver a submissive—then it’s up to Mistress or Master who gets what.
If you’re planning to wear the strap-on so you can fuck your lovers long after your own dick wears out, the harness fit will be different than hers because a man’s hips and thighs are narrower.
On the other hand, she might be ultra petite or a super-size voluptuous beauty. You want to make sure the harness fits.
Find the right dildo.
There are hundreds of kinds of dildos, from glass works of art to dolphins to fist-shaped fuck toys. You’re going to want to choose a dildo that is versatile enough to wear in a harness, or one made especially for that purpose.
Don’t hesitate to ask an expert. Shopping online allows you privacy while you peruse, and can be a fun shared experience for your throuple. You can read user reviews of various strap-on dildos. In store, ask a sales associate for thoughts on brands, models, and customer feedback.
Be Open to Variations
Threesome sex play is all about taking pleasure to the next level, experimenting, pleasing more than one lover at a time, and exploring new kinks or fantasies. Since there are even more variable for three than for two, variety is even more infinite. So much in a threesome is about performing or about watching, and then switching up who’s doing what.
With that in mind, don’t get stuck in a rut, and be playful about what directions evolve during sex play. Try using a strap-on during a hot role play—a nun hiding a strap-on under her habit? Holy fuck! A lap dance that turns into a man sandwich? Yum!
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