Guys spend a lot of time online looking for a bisexual girlfriend or hookup. The bi babe is a much drooled over fantasy figure.
After all, a bisexual woman shares your lust for the ladies—she can see what you see, right? She’s more likely to be wild in bed, and she’ll share her sordid stories with you. Maybe she wants to have sex with other women in front of you! Well, in theory.
In reality, it can be intimidating to be dating a bisexual woman.
You might have doubts—can a man satisfy a bisexual woman? Will she leave you for another woman, or sneak off to date women behind your back?
What to Know about Dating a Bisexual Woman
Understand that her bisexual side has nothing to do with you.
I don’t blame you for getting hot and bothered, but don’t expect a woman who is bisexual to be any more or less likely to get freaky with you.
It can be exhausting for a woman who swings both ways to date. Going out with lesbian women, she might get the third degree about “not making up her mind,” or taking a feminist stand against men. Dating men, she can feel she “isn’t enough” because every guy is hoping to get in on the girl-on-girl action in her imagination.
She doesn’t necessarily want to share her girlfriends with you.
Your girlfriend being bi has zero bearing on whether she will share women with you or not.
Bisexual people are just like other people—some prefer to date one on one and sleep with one person at a time. It doesn’t mean she loves orgies or has any desire to share her bed with more than one person at once. If she does want a threesome or other kinky fun, great, but don’t judge her by her orientation.
Don’t have unrealistic expectations. Of course, you can hope and fantasize!
Being bisexual doesn’t mean she wants to date other people.
Leave it up to women to decide who they want to sleep with. If she’s hooking up with you, obviously she wants to! If she’s dating you, it means she chose you out of a large pool of possibilities. You don’t have to fear that a bisexual woman wants to date women instead if she’s dating you.
Being bi doesn’t mean she needs sex or attention from the other gender any more than anyone else does. Some bisexual women are polyamorous and some aren’t—period. It’s more about being open to love and sex and not about being unsatisfied with love and sex from one side.
Identifying as bi doesn’t mean she’s had sex with other women, or that she will again.
Don’t assume she’s already had sexual relations with other women, or that she is planning to again any time soon.
A monogamous married woman can be just as bisexual as an adventurous polyamorous woman who enjoys orgies.
Consider an open relationship, but only if that’s what she wants.
If your girlfriend is bisexual, giving her the freedom to date women (or other men and women) is a beautiful thing, but don’t insult her by implying that she must be unsatisfied, or by insisting that both of you share other people. Discuss threesomes and polyamory the same way you would with any date, if it’s on your mind or hers.
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