Sex can be expensive! Simply meeting for martinis before your threesome or hookup can spike your budget over the top, never mind the hotel fees and taxis.
If you are on the kinky side, there are all kinds of price tags that come with every fetish: lingerie, leather, role-play costumes, wigs, sets and props, whips, paddles, restraints, sex dolls, butt plugs, dildos—it all adds up.
It’s wonderful to invest in clothing and sex toys that bring pleasure and excitement. But in leaner times, you can still enjoy kinky sex with nothing more than a little imagination.
How to Explore Kink on a Budget
Check out your closets and trunks.
You may have to forego the expensive alien tentacle attachments and silver rubber bodysuit this time, but get creative with gear and clothes you have on hand for threesome roleplay fun.
You might have a slick retro look already hanging in your closet, just waiting for the right moment. Ladies can add a cheap set of fishnets to just about any little black dress. Make fairy wings out of glitter and Bristol board. A swim bikini goes megawatt with sky-high heels—on her or on YOU.
Once I wore a classic black thong and wrapped myself from thigh to cleavage in bubble wrap.
Look around your house with a kinky mind.
You already have a wealth of objects or supplies that can be sexy. Here are a few ideas: nontoxic kid’s paints for body adornment, a peacock feather from a floral arrangement for tickle torture, a rubber spatula for spanking, a beautiful scarf for a blindfold, moisturizer and lube to make things glide, a pulsating shower head for sensory play, vintage porn videos for visual stimulation, a mosquito net for camping, and mirrors everywhere for sexy fun.
Root through your garage or the local hardware store
You can buy rope, chains, and more at the hardware store, or you may already have a dungeon in the making in your own garage or basement.
Old tires, a big tarp, a padlock—just a few things that can be rigged into something sexy and sinister.
Think about settings and backdrop.
When you look at pornographic photoshoots, the sex is always taking place in a different kind of locale or setting. Maybe two women are making love to a mechanic in the exact garage you were just looking through above.
Maybe the set designers put up a disco ball and covered the wall in aluminum tinfoil. All you need is a string of white Christmas lights and voila, a techno setting.
Maybe you and your wood nymphs are pictured with pointy ears from last Halloween’s trip to the dollar store, playing pony games in a secluded meadow.
Use a tarp or shower curtain to make cleanup a breeze.
Dollar stores and the local housewares stores all sell budget shower curtains or construction and painting ground sheets, or you might already have these in the hall closet.
Spreading a shower curtain over the bed or floor is a simple solution that can allow oil wresting, golden showers, G-spot squirtathons, body painting—you name it—with an easy economical cleanup.
Remember, kink is a lot older than the fetish industry.
I love a chic set of leather paddles or a sexy rubber dress. But knowing that BDSM and other forms of kinky sex are much, much older than the fetish marketplace empowers me to practice kinky love without needing anything more than my imagination.
Kinky beings didn’t buy special whips or dungeon supplies 300 years ago or 1000 years ago. People were making imaginative love long before even lingerie was invented. Splurge on pieces you and your lovers enjoy when you can, but don’t be limited by your budget—kink is truly unlimited.
What’s something that you would recommend that isn’t going to break the bank?
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