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4 Tips for More Anal Sex

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This might come as a surprise, but many women LOVE anal sex. We love the powerful sensation of being extra full. And anal, done right, makes it easier to have an orgasm. Sometimes I can hardly help myself from coming when you’re sliding your shaft inside the back door!

So why is she always saying no?

Anal sex is high maintenance sex. It requires perfect timing. You have to be super aroused—above and beyond normal “extra horny.” You have to totally trust your partner. And you have to be in a state of mind that is relaxed and comfortable.

Anal sex can be a powerful pleasure for both of you. It’s also a very exciting potential part of a MMF threesome — very seldom do I experience the thrill of a cock in my pussy and my ass at the same time.

So how can you have more anal sex and get to that golden grail without always being given the “Sorry, We’re Closed” sign?

4 Tips for More Anal Sex

1. Offer No Surprises

Don’t think you can just slide your dick in her ass and she won’t notice. Don’t start stabbing at her back hole with your finger and expect her to swoon, or poke your dick around and think she’ll go wild. She won’t. If you can’t talk about it or ask about it you can’t fuck it. We can’t relax if we think you’ll just go in for the kill.

2. Take Her to the Brink

Anal is not a substitute. It’s extra, for when she’s so aroused her pussy is no longer enough.

Some guys don’t understand why I don’t want anal when I’m on the rag. If the one hole is not working, they reason, the back door is the backup. Umm, no. When I’m feeling gassy and bloated and nauseous the last thing I feel like is putting something in my butt, sorry.

The key is to excite her beyond all measure, to take her to the brink. This means slowing down, focusing on her, giving her more attention, more oral, more fingering, more kink, more orgasm denial. When she’s delirious with desire, she’s ready for anal sex.

Read Hookup Land’s article: What You Need to Know About Women and Anal Sex

3. Be a Trustworthy Partner

You’re more likely to have anal with a committed partner than a hookup. Of course there are exceptions, but many women need to feel trust and comfort first.

Anal sex can be too rough, too painful, and too dangerous to risk with just anybody.

The guy who is patient, gentle, slow, armed with lube, respects boundaries, is honest, concerned with safety, and committed to her pleasure, has a much bigger chance of being let in.

4. Prove to Her that You Aren’t Squeamish

I’m going to be frank—anal sex is a very private, intimate act. A woman would rather die than pass gas or digest in front of you, and using that same tract for sex is iffy. Yes, it FEELS good, but it is also a waste disposal system. Even if we are empty, there are bacteria and fluids we don’t want to share.

If you freak out because you see a streak of menstrual blood on her thong or act all turned off by basic human biology out of the bedroom, we aren’t going to feel comfortable getting down and dirty with you.

If you assure her you can handle a bit of dirt, she will be much more relaxed. It’s quite simple. If you’re planning for anal, just say “We can take a steamy shower together right before so you can be more comfortable. As for me, I’m already comfortable. Nothing’s going to freak me out.”

Do you enjoy anal? What makes your lovers want to have more anal sex?

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